Do you ever find yourself in one of those conversations and you think, “Uh oh, where’s this going?” The person or team is starting to go down the slippery slope into talking about people who aren’t in the room, or reminiscing about the past (not in a positive way). And you wonder: What to do? What to do?
How do you participate in this conversation and help to get it back on track?
Here’s 3 tips to stay aligned with the sun, instead of the rain:
1. Note it.
“Whoops, I think we are going down into a rabbit hole.”
2. Get curious about what’s happening.
“I’m wondering if we need to bring (person’s name) into this conversation?” or “I’m curious how this links to our overarching strategy?”
And if it keeps going this direction…
Sometimes you need to get firm; be brave – you have to be willing to do it.
“With the time we have left, let’s turn our attention to our desired outcomes for this meeting, (or conversation). What more do we need to discuss together to come to make some decisions?
Dredging up the past or forecasting a negative future are common things we do everyday. We worry, we fret, or we make assumptions about others. It’s not easy to be the sun in the room, but it can go a long way to helping foster a more positive relationship or working environment. And it requires vigilance and practice to catch yourself on that slippery slope, or see it starting to happen in a meeting.
Treat every moment as an opportunity to get better at this and you’ll find that your day will be so much lighter and brighter. Talking about things or people in a negative way brings in the rainclouds and who needs that?
What’s your tip to keep the sun shining? Send it to us at Info@pattidobrowolski.com so we can share the wisdom from Creative Genius YOU.