It’s fascinating how hard it is to stand up for what you believe in when your livelihood depends upon it. I am not just speaking about the political arena; I am talking about you and me in our daily lives with our bosses, our clients, even our partners. We figure, “Oh well, it can’t get any worse…” and then it does. Funny how that happens…
Here are some things I’ve learned over the years about standing up for yourself.
1. Practice being transparent and authentic.
You’d be surprised at how, under pressure, we have a tendency to try to be someone we are not in order to win, instead of being ourselves. Remind yourself that you are loved – sounds weird but honestly, if you think of someone you love and who loves you before you go into a stressful situation, your heart will open and you’ll be more present, and more yourself.
2. Be prepared.
In a previous time in this life I was a drama therapist and I have seen the benefits of rehearsal. Say what you want to say out loud. Say it to the mirror, say it to your pet, practice so you know what you want to say and you’ve had a chance to rehearse how the conversation could go and how you can keep it on track.
3. Be firm.
When you sit or stand, imagine your feet have roots and they are growing down to the center of the earth. From this place you will know what to say and it will help you remind yourself to speak your truth.
4. Trust your instincts.
Okay, here’s when you want to just pay close attention to your gut. “Trusting your gut is trusting the collection of all your subconscious experiences,” says Melody Wilding, a licensed therapist and professor of human behavior at Hunter College. Instincts are linked to your Creative Genius. Listen for the quiet whisperings.
5. Be courageous.
There’s no doubt that standing up for what you believe requires you to dip into that well of courage. It’s not for the faint of heart, but think of the consequences of not speaking your truth – an ever-eroding shriveled up you. When things are the hardest you are growing the most, in all ways. Embrace the tough times and stay true to #CreativeGenius YOU!
This week take time to sift through your world. Where are you being comfortable? Where could you benefit for a deeper conversation with a person, a team, yourself. Why not become a model for those around you? Bring the most honest you to the table. The world needs it, needs to hear your truth.